Once upon a time, I was sitted in a youth conference and the speaker, asked a very confusing question; that who amongst us in the room could tell what makes the feeling of lust different from the feeling of true love? Well I was confused, till he finally made some splendid distinctions between the two.

 Lust has the reputation for being the flame we jump into thinking of a classic movie we might have viewed, according to leading relationship expert Helen fitcher; she says that lust is the initial stage of love, without the desire of wanting someone first we can't experience intimacy. So how do we know if are still stuck in the initial stage of attraction or ready to transit I to something more meaningful and long lasting?


 Here are four core differences between lust and love;

 lust is based on physical attraction while love deals with emotional bonding and connectivity; yes every human is built with sexual desires which is the bases of lust but a true and longlasting relationship can't feed only on that, because such desires are only temporary and are hormones driven, every true love is driven on the bases that the two individuals have developed a strong bond that makes them compartable with each other, and realizing the need for each other 
 lust doesn't survive the test of time but love does; lust can be like a roller coaster, that takes you through the temporary and momentarily pleasure, making the individual feel that he can't do without, only love transits over time because it doesn't just seek for relational benefits.
 lust is based on fantasies while love bases on reality; every person that has ever been in lust will always acting based on their imaginations, they focus more on the idea of relationship more the person in front of them, which can cause the individual meet allot of red flags. They idolize the imagery of a perfect partner but when reality sets in it makes you realize that your partner has flaws just as you also do.
in lust you are just romantic partners but in love you are life long friends; psychiatrists have discovered that lasting relationships are built on over time friendship, who can go on fun dates meet each other's family, communicate well and understand each other, but the chances of just romantic lovers lasting together are very very low.
lust is selfish while true Love is selfless; when you love someone you focus more on helping them fulfill their goals, visions and aspirations, rather pleasing oneself, lust is always about increasing one's ego and achieving sexual desires. When in love you see yourself granting more favour and wishes of your partner sacrificing personal desires..

 So are you in lust or in love? Leave a comment below.....
And also remember that just because you are in lust doesn't mean it can't develop into love!